When someone dies

When someone is grieving a loss, don't say you understand, because you don't. Don't say it's going to be ok, because its not, and don't say you can imagine what it must be like, because you can't. Don't be afraid to ask how the person is doing. Don't be afraid to talk about death. Don't pretend it never happened and don't wait for them to bring it up. It is not the griever's job to make people feel comfortable about what has happened. Yes, it is an uncomfortable topic, but it doesn't have to be. Ask how they are coping. Ask again in 3months, ask again in a year. For god's sake don't ask about the will. Don't be afraid to talk to them about what is going on in your life because you think that it is insignificant. Just be yourself and realize that it will take some time for us to be ourselves, and to find ourselves again.